It’s going to take me 3 or 4 paragraphs to get to my point. Bear with me.
Earlier this week, I noticed a spike in blog traffic. It coincided with a “hey, how are you doing?” email that the VBA’s Covid-19 Committee sent to the bar. The email included a link to this blog’s tab HELP: Resources for Assistance & Recovery As soon as the email went out, visits to the tab skyrocketed.
Important Aside! I am not able to discern WHO visited a particular page. I’m only able to see the number of visits that each post and tab receive.
Anyhow, the tab includes links far and wide. Lots got clicks. From the resource page published by the ABA Commission on Lawyer Assistance Programs, to my post Coping With Coronavirus-Related Stress, to the proactive and socially focused tips in the ABA’s Well-Being Toolkit for Legal Employers in a Nutshell.
My point: the Committee’s email caused people to reach out.
Not only via clicking the link, but by contacting me. Two lawyers called for no other reason than to chat, each mentioning that it’s good to have someone to talk to, if only for a few minutes during otherwise stressful times. If that’s you, reach out whenever you want.
And don’t forget to reach out to others. Last year, I posted Wellness Wednesday: Reach out, check in. Prompted by a tip from Andrew Manitsky, I quoted from an op-ed that had run in the New York Times: I Had Completely Lost the Knack for Staying Alive. I highlighted a tip from the author. Referring to spring’s annual arrival, she wrote:
- “It brings new pleasures by the week — asparagus in the farmers’ market, excitable toddlers in the playgrounds — and also a reminder to try to reach out to people who have lost someone recently, or those who seem withdrawn. They may need to be given a chance to talk about how they’re doing, and if things are very bad, encouraged to get the professional support they need. I can confirm that with time, help and love, things get better.” (emphasis added).
There are times when it’s not necessary to over complicate things. Each one of us can be our own lawyer assistance program. If someone you know has withdrawn, maybe all they need is chance to say “hey, thanks for thinking of me.” Sometimes, that’s all it takes.
Finally, don’t forget about your own proactive well-being. The things that each of us can do to help prevent us from having to access recovery resources. For more on this, check out my National Lawyer Well-Being Week posts and videos.
Whether for yourself or to someone you know, reach out. It’ll make a difference.