I present a lot of CLEs in May and June. Many of the seminars include a “wellness” component. This year, I’ve noticed a new dynamic to the wellness discussion.
To be clear, we’re at a place where people agree that self-care and work-life balance are critically important to fending off the stress and anxiety that comes with the profession. That’s a good thing. Unlike 5 years ago, when some grumbled that “wellness” isn’t part of legal ethics or professional responsibility, I never leave a wellness seminar worried about the reception to the message.
But what I’ve noticed during the seminars is this.
Despite recognizing the need to look after their own well-being, many people expressed concern about finding the time to do so. Demands on their time – whether work or personal – can be such that the thought of even trying to fit wellness into the schedule seems too daunting.
Until this week, my only response was to remind people something to the effect of “experts will tell you that you must find the time and that if you don’t, you’ll be at risk of your stress morphing into burnout.” A perfectly fair (and common) response is “Mike, easier said than done.”
Then, a few days ago, I stumbled across The Rule of 10: A Simple Training Tip That Will Change Your Running. Writing for Trail Runner Magazine in May 2022, Nicholas Triolo explained:
“The Rule of 10 was something I first heard of while running through Portland, Oregon’s Forest Park with friend and decorated ultrarunner Jennifer Love. We were discussing motivation.
‘When nothing else seems to work,’ she said, ‘I call forth the Rule of 10.’
‘The Rule of 10?’ I said between labored breaths.
‘The Rule of 10.’ Love explained that, despite its simplicity, no matter what life brings you can nearly always complete ten minutes of activity. ‘If I’m ever feeling like I just can’t do a run, I always give myself ten minutes. And if, after ten minutes, I will want to quit, then I’ll turn my train around and stop running.’”
Triolo went on:
“The point was this: Whenever things feel heavy, think bite-sized, something author James Clear Clear is known for underscoring in his book, Atomic Habits (one of marathon world-record holder Eliud Kipchoge’s favorite books of all-time). ‘When making plans, think big. When making progress, think small,’ writes Clear. ‘Every action you take is a vote for the kind of person you want to be.’”
What a great concept!
If incorporating wellness into your routine seems daunting, follow the advice from Triolo and Clear: think small, like bite-sized portions. As Jennifer Love said to Triolo, I’m guessing you can always find 10 minutes. Start there. Small? Maybe. But it’s ten more minutes than zero minutes.
As I drafted this blog, the message seemed familiar. Then, it struck me.
Five years ago I posted “Lawyer Wellness: resolve to find 6 minutes for yourself.” In it, I referred to Jeena Cho, who has long been a leading voice in the attorney wellness movement. In 2018, the ABA Journal published Jeena’s Mindful Mediation: an achievable resolution for lawyer well-being. As Jeena points out, even only 6 minutes per day can help to improve well-being.
Wait a minute . . . I just negotiated against myself!!! Only a few paragraphs ago I was suggesting that you find 10 minutes, and here I am down to 6!
Anyway, you get the point.
Does working on well-being seem daunting? It needn’t be. Start small, with bite-sized portions.
Future You will thank You.
As always, let’s be careful out there.
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Previous Wellness & Well-Being Posts
- On Wellness, we’ve only just begun to begin
- Wellness Wednesday: Make Well-Being an Expectation in the Attorney-Client Relationship
- Wellness Wednesday: Pro Bono
- Wellness Wednesday: R.I.P. Ray Massucco
- Wellness Wednesday: Don’t Stresslax
- It’s healthy for legal employers to value employees as people
- Meet David Rocchio: The Move to Movies
- Wrapping up Well-Being Week: my self-report of significant bread-making violations
- The 253rd legal ethics quiz: Emotional Well-Being & my Kentucky Derby picks
- Connect & Contribute
- I Made Bread
- Align
- Stay Strong
- With 40 Wellness tips, the ABA has at least one for everyone
- R.I.P. Charlie Kryst
- Aiming for Well-Being
- Wellness, Emotional Regulation, and the power of “What’s Important Now?”
- A lesson from my dad, Nandi, and The Foo Fighters: find & experience awe
- Ask the Question
- Wellness Wednesday: Set communication boundaries with clients & opposing counsel
- Yes, wellness includes the results of my first moot court competition
- Wellness Wednesday: It’s okay to ask for help. Bar Assistance will listen and support you
- Wellness Wednesday: Set communication boundaries with clients and opposing counsel
- Wellness Wednesday: Compassion Fatigue
- Wellness Wednesday: A message from Justice Eaton
- Jessica Burke: “Well People Do”
- Wellness Wednesday: Schitt$ Creek and Paddles
- Wellness Wednesday: Be Kind to Lawyers
- Civility Matters. Especially Now.
- Coping with COVID-19 Related Stress & Anxiety
- Wellness Wednesday: Unplug
- Well-Being is an Aspect of Competence
- Wellness Wednesday: Survival Skills
- Wellness Wednesday: Make time for what (and who) matters
- Wellness Wednesday: Risk & Response
- Do summer your way
- Wellness Wednesday: Meet Alison, Shireen, Samantha, and Alison
- Reach Out, Check In
- Wellness Wednesday: Mentor Someone
- Wellness Wednesday: Joan Loring Wing
- Wellness Wednesday: Law Day & Pro Bono
- Get your sleep
- Take a Chance on Being Nice
- Attorney Wellness: We’ve Only Just Begun
- Be Kind to a Lawyer Today
- Be Nice to Someone Today
- Wellness v. Well-Being
- Wellness Wednesday: Meet Molly Gray
- Wellness Wednesday: Judge Garland & My Cousin Vinny
- Shakespeare, Pink Floyd and Wellness
- Wellness Wednesday: You are not an impostor
- Wellness Wednesday: “N O” is “O K”
- Wellness Wednesday: Stop it!
- Wellness Wednesday: Meet Jeff Messina
- Lawyers Helping Lawyers Part 2
- Lawyers Helping Lawyers: Keep it on the front burner
- Lawyer Well-Being: a call to action
- Anxiety, Stress & Work-Life Balance for Lawyers
- Make time for what matters
- Lawyer Wellness: resolve to find 6 minutes for yourself
- 108 is way too many
- Workplace Happiness
- Make Wellness a Habit
- A pledge by legal employers to focus on lawyer well-being
- Legal Ethics & the Water Cooler
- Wellness Wednesday: Island Vines
- Wellness Wednesday: on ponds, puffery and paltering
- Wellness Wednesday: Neil Diamond, the Lock Screen, and National Mental Health Day for Law Students